Teens and Dating notes

Know the signs:

Healthy
· Talking about your feelings
· Respecting date’s friends and activities
· Considering the other person’s opinions and feelings
· Respecting differences in other persons
· Stating differences of opinion
· Having an equal say in the relationship
· Figuring out a solution that is good for both of you

Unhealthy
· Believing one sex has more rights than the other
· Shouting or yelling when you are angry at your date
· Using the silent treatment
· Pestering your date until you get what you want
· Pouting to get what you want

Abusive
· Dominating and controlling your date’s other relationships/friends and activities
· Name calling (putdowns)
· Threatening harm
· Intimidating by hitting or destroying property
· Being extremely jealous and possessive of date
· Pushing, hitting, restraining or holding your date against his/her will
· Forcing sexual touching or intercourse

The Bee Movie!

While watching the movie, make note of each of the following

1. Labelling: Some events/scenes where I noticed labelling:
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2. End in Mind: Some events/scenes where I noticed “End in Mind”:
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3. Goals: Some events/scenes where I noticed goals or goals setting:
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4. Time Management: Some events/scenes where I noticed...
(a) Procrastination: ______________________________________________________________
(b) Slacking: ____________________________________________________________________
(c) Being a follower: _____________________________________________________________
(d) Prioritizing: _________________________________________________________________

5. Relationship Bank Account: Some events/scenes where I noticed...
(a) Keeping a promise: ___________________________________________________________
(b) Small act of kindness: _________________________________________________________
(c) Being loyal: _________________________________________________________________
(d) Saying you are sorry: __________________________________________________________

6. Relationship Situation: Some events/scenes where I noticed...
(a) Win-win: ___________________________________________________________________
(b) Win-lose: ___________________________________________________________________
(c) Lose-win: ___________________________________________________________________
(d) Lose-lose: __________________________________________________________________

7. Listening: Some events/scenes where I noticed...
(a) “Check out”: ________________________________________________________________
(b) Pretend Listening:____________________________________________________________

Resolving Conflict: It's Your Choice

Withdraw: When the relationship is unimportant to you and your goals are not important either, you can just walk away and not resolve the conflict

Acquiescence: When the relationship is more important to you than your goals in the situation, you can resolve the conflict by acquiescing, giving in to the other person.

Forcing: When your goals are more important to you than your relationship with the other person, and more important then the other person’s goals, you can resolve the conflict by forcing, getting your own way.

Compromise: When your goals are as important as your relationship with the other person, and as important as their goals, you can resolve the conflict by compromising, giving in a little to meet the other person halfway and still get some of what you want.

Negotiation: When your goals are important to you, but you understand that the other person’s goals are also important, and you want to maintain a good relationship, you can resolve the conflict by negotiating a solution that suits both of you.

Link for Degrassi episode

http://www.ctv.ca/mini/degrassi2006/Video5.html
Go to the above site and click on the episode titled, "We Got the Beat".There are three parts, so make sure you watch all three.

Relationships – Degrassi episode 707 - “We’ve Got The Beat”

1. List all of the different relationships and in the episode.
2. What is Manny’s problem and why is she struggling?
3. What are Jimmy’s problems and why is he struggling?
4. What did Ashley do to disrespect Jimmy? Why did she do this?
5. How did Manny’s “Master Plan” backfire? What did she do to change it?
6. What did Ashley mean when she said, “Our music is more important”?
7. Why did Manny ask her Dad to dance?
8. Would Jimmy and Trina be good for each other? Why or why not?

Progress Reports

Just a reminder that progress reports were sent home this week. Please review this with your parents, have them sign it, and return it to me as soon as possible. If you have a mark with the comment "absent" beside it, you are responsible to finish the work, but were not given a mark for that item. You will receive a mark once I have received it. If you have a mark with "incomplete" beside it, you are responsible to finish the work, but you have been given a zero until I receive it and mark it. If it is marked as incomplete, it is because you were present when it was assigned, but you have chosen to not hand it in on time. Please remember that late work is graded as such, and you are responsible for you. If you are absent you are still responsible to `catch up`on any missed work. If you have any concerns or need any help with completing an assignment, you know I am available each and every day.